Do you wonder if you should open the door for a woman, let them go first, pay for their meal? (Admittedly, this first part is for men, but don't let that stop you women from reading on. )
Why do you wonder? You open the door for someone out of respect. You let someone go ahead of you out of respect. You pay for their meal because you want to. OR - You DON'T. It's that simple.
A successful person once said, "If you follow the crowd, you walk in the crowd's doo doo." Another way of putting it might be, if you do what everyone else does, you might think you're right, but if you're not true to yourself, you are wrong.
Constantly trying to be politically correct is too big of a hassle, don't you think? The rules are always changing. Not only that, but maybe the other person has a different interpretation of what is politically correct.
Who is right?Good feelings should promote your actions, because good feelings usually promote good actions.
If you are doing something for someone because you think that is what they want, you have a chance of being wrong. We can't always know what the other person wants -- even if you've been with this person for a long time. That person could have changed his or her ways overnight and they didn't tell you. Remember this, most people will respect you more if you do something for them... because you want to do something for them.
You need to find your base. You need to know who you are. You need to know what is acceptable to YOU. In other words, be true to yourself.
If you are intent on being your own person, on being the best you can be, you won't have to wonder what is correct. Stick to your values.
Realize that this game, "If I do this, then you'll do that, and I'll get this, etc." isn't any fun anymore.Play your own game. A game called, "Is this something I can be proud of?" Or, "Would I want someone to do this for, or to, me?" Determine what's more important -- doing what's right for you, or doing what's politically correct.
Never lose your faith in yourself.
Thanks for reading,
Jan